Figuring out how I relax
Wednesday evening 8:56 pm at the Raymond house, Chewie on my lap and a glass of red wine in my hand.
What a good day.
I guess it was a relaxing one. I really don’t know how to relax. At all. I’m a high strung person in all aspects.
My boo just now said I looked so relaxed and it super surprised me. He said it surprises him to see me so relaxed.
It got me thinking of the things that actually make me fully relax. I’ve never thought about them or tried to do them. Usually the word relax comes with a lot of guilt for me.
I want to try and figure out all the things and places that help me feel relaxed. Because I really have no clue.
The main one I instantly thought of was reading. I love books so much. So I said, I relax the most when I read.
Then minutes later I realized that wasn’t true. I am happiest when I’m reading but not necessarily the most relaxed.
I started asking myself how I feel the absolute most relaxed. Like not thinking of the past, present or future and just satisfy myself in a guilt free moment and not think at all and feel truly relaxed and happy.
This is really hard for me.
When I watch HGTV, I am completely relaxed, I think. I get huge satisfaction watching people purchase their dream homes and watching a shabby shack turn into a spacious and chic home. I’m getting all warm just thinking about it!
I feel I also relax when I try and de clutter my closet. Even if I don’t end up de-cluttering anything and keeping everything, the whole process puts me in a relaxed good mood. The strive to minimalism really makes me happy. It’s just taking a while to get there.
Organizing my online wish lists. That’s another thing for me to relax.
I have very particular wish-lists for particular websites. This includes my Pintrest. It’s like my wish lists are my make believe closets and I actually own everything in my wish lists.
My favorite wish-lists are for Nordstroms, Free people, Lululemon, Anthropologie, Audible and the longest standing wishlist is Sephora’s wish-list.
I go on my wish-lists every few months and clean them up as if I’m decluttering my closet. I’ll get rid of things that were like “what was I thinking?!” and maybe get rid of things I don’t really need. Not that I really need anything from those lists but it’s a word to make me feel better about buying.
I’ll keep some things on the lists that are sold out because I want to remember what I liked about them and maybe look for them sometime later.
There are things that have been in my wish-lists for many, many years that I will purchase one day. But I have to be specific when I buy these things.
That is how I usually shop. I am definitely not a frivolous spender. I think things through whether something is $5.00 or $500.00. So I don’t often shop but when I do It’s because I have been wanting something for a very long time and it’s a classic by the time I actually get it.
I usually like to treat myself to some of these things around my birthday.
Usually a couple things will come out of my Sephora wish list. Because I love Sephora and because they reel you into to their store with an evil grin with their yearly birthday gift to their subscribers.
This past birthday I treated myself to a blush and concealer I had been wanting forever. I felt like they were little treasures on my vanity and I was waiting to open them for a special moment.
Then my mom and my sister came to visit me for my birthday and that was that.
They got in around 1 am, fell asleep and by the time we woke up the next day my new little birthday Sephora treasures were gashed open and had my mom and sisters little finger prints all over them.
This does not help me relax.
I am always at my highest relaxation point next to my Chewie. But this I and everyone else already knows.
It’s so important that I figure out how to relax guilt free. I feel so unproductive when I try to relax that it ends up giving me anxiety. Maybe I should schedule relax times in. Like from this hour to this hour on these days I will be relaxing guilt free.
Also, I should figure out what other things help me relax. Like hiking with Chewie! Yes, that has to be my favorite thing in the world.
Man, I got good sleep last night! I need to add another huge thing that helps me relax completely and that is freshly washed, clean warm sheets.
Feels like I slept on a cloud.
The glasses of wine sure helped but the sheets just put me in a coma.
How do you relax?
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